Is it possible to have been abused as a child without remembering it in adulthood but still having manifestations?

Diego, we’ve got to know you very well over the past three years and you’re very open in talking about things most people wouldn’t dream of discussing. That’s fine, but there may be much simpler explanations for your problems than repressed memories of child abuse.

So often, therapists who work with repressed trauma patients have led them to build a memory of something that never really happened. It’s dangerous territory and if you incorrectly accuse your parents the mud is going to stick to them.

You’ve had an unusual childhood and, just from the information you have given us in more than 2000 questions, it’s clear that you never had the opportunity to socialise. Now that you are working that shortcoming is going to bite you on the butt. The angst you’ve described in relating to your boss and others at work is much more likely to be the cause of your present malaise.

Just give it a little time. Try and relate to others. DON’T talk to them about yourself as you talk to us here. In a sense we’re all the centre of our own universe, but we’re not the centre of anybody else’s.

Maybe you would really benefit from professional help.

Good luck.

This can be caused due to memory relapses.

Yes. Many people suppress bad memories because they are too horrible to deal with. Sometimes later in life, those people have issues with PTSD or other problems, such as depression, anxiety, multiple personality disorder, etc. Seeking counseling may be a good idea.

yes, it doesn’t mean that is what is causing your current issues but it could be…

It’s possible that it was even someone not in your immediate family.

My friend was abused by his dad when he was 11. He used to cut then, too (Not deep enough to leave scars). He’s 14 now, and when I asked about it, he didn’t remember. I know for a fact that it happened because I’ve heard his dad verbally abuse him, seen bruises, and he showed me his cuts (all of this happened back then).

Because he was still pretty young, his mind couldn’t handle the emotional pain of being betrayed by his father, so his subconscious stored away the painful memories. He still doesn’t remember because I haven’t yet preformed hypnotherapy on him to help him recall and then help him deal with the memories correctly. I suggest talking to a therapist; there’s nothing wrong with asking for help. Marcus, you’re a strong young man: stronger than you think. But you aren’t strong enough to deal with something like that on your own. No one is. I know your smart mentally enough to know you should ask for help, even if emotionally you don’t want to. Do what’s best for yourself and the people who care about you, and just go to a therapist, okay? I care for you and I want you to do what’s best.

Listen to what everyone had to say. Get some counseling. Don’t be afraid or ashamed. So many people do it. And remember, they have heard it all before. I think it would be great for you. I see one and she is terrific. You can say anything without fear of judgement.

its not impossible but if your parents are responsible and realistic I’d say its unlikely. a therapist can help examine the situation with you, you may also be highly suggestible and/or imaginative, good things but both can cause adjustment difficulties.

Diego, you need to go to a good therapist, ask for recommendations and rate them online but you must take care of it while you are young, otherwise you will never be completely happy, it will be like a black cloud following you. Pls dont procrastinate, your future happiness depends on this. I love you, baby 🙂

True. Most of these people have suggested therapy but I have a great technique of diving into your mind in a more natural (and cheap) manner. Try dream incubation. I can explain the gist now, but you should do some research. Often times, our dreams and our subconscious reveal what is at the forefront of our minds better than our waking conscious.

Start this way. Get a dream journal and write down a phrase right before you sleep. “I will remember my dreams tonight.” Then get under the covers and think that phrase and go to sleep. Do this for a week until you remember your dreams in the morning consistently (AND WRITE THEM DOWN the morning after, that’s important so your brain gets in the habit of knowing “hey, this guy is serious about remembering”. Then once the week is up, do more incubation by writing down something more complicated like “I will remember something that happened when I was (insert age here)”.

I have to warn you. Your brain hides memories for a reason. If you did endure something that traumatic, your brain is protecting you from it. If you even have so much as a bad feeling about this technique at all, trust your gut and go for professional help.

Diego, please don’t go down that road of trying to remember what you might imagine. False memories can seem more real than real ones. Then victims are made of those false memories.

yes it is especially girls read stories of abuse and see if any of them remind you of anything

While it is possible, anxiety is a very common thing. There is most likely a simpler reason. Follow Zeus’s advice. 🙂 Good luck!

Be careful with what goes around the internet. Suppressed memories are common but there are many other triggers to answer or help you to understand this. Listen to Didge, Doc, j and others. Please speak with a person who can help you.

yes people can forget for an example on finding nemo dorrey the blue fish forgets a lot but like my mom she forgets that I say that she has to take me to a friends house

So many people are abused in life, how sad, You may not know what when and how you may have been abused, that is why we put up protection against it and sometimes not know, for example over eating, The pain usually starts in the stomach and can literally bend you over with pain, so we put up walls to stop the pain. So much So bad So Sad.
Have Faith,

Yes. Actually, from time to time, all of us block out things we don’t want to see or hear. The good news is that there is “a time to heal.” And for many victims of childhood abuse the emergence of long-buried memories is an important part of the healing process. As a victim gets older, the pressures of life often weaken her ability to repress the past.
Some memories begin their emergence in the form of psychosomatic pains; others are in the form of hallucinations that may be mistaken for demonic activity-intruder sounds, such as doors opening; shadowy figures that move by doorways and windows; the feeling of an invisible presence in bed. Such distress generally ceases when the memories fully emerge.
Memories are usually released over a period of weeks, months, or years, each emerging memory bringing on a temporary crisis. The Right to Innocence says that at times “you may feel like you are backsliding. You aren’t. You are getting better. In actuality, you have gained the strength necessary to face deeper, even more painful feelings and awareness.” Remember: Facing the past and putting it (manifestations) together again can be a big step toward healing!